The One with Taking a Break

The Primary Reason why I wanted to “Take a Break”

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This post is being used as a way for me to overcome the pain I’m feeling.   A way to vent, a way to help put this behind me.

My relationship is done and over.     A year and a half.   Down the shitter.

Let me make a list of what the hell is going on so you can better understand why I decided to put the brakes on my relationship with her.

1.       She Refuses to get Child Support

2.       She Refuses to put her kids into Day Care

3.       She Refuses to get a Job

She Refuses to get Child Support

For over a year, I have been nudging, hinting, reminding, trying to push her to get Child Support for her two kids.    My Neighbor and Friend has been supporting her (along with her two kids, her mother, her 3 kids, and an endless stream of friends) is being drained dry.      She refuses to lift a finger.     Nothing I said or tried could motivate her to get herself on her feet.    Finally, I gave her an ultimatum.   Get sh*t started or we are going to have to re-evaluate this relationship.   You have 30 days.

30 Days came and went….

She Refuses to put her kids into Day Care

This one really blows my mind!   She got approved for state funded Day Care (months ago)!   I would be ecstatic!    Get those kids into day care so you can concentrate on getting on your feet.   Get a job, start saving money!  Did she?   Um…. NOPE.   Where the hell is your sense of pride?

She Refuses to get a Job:

Obviously, because her lazy ass won’t put her kids into day care, she can’t get a job to make money.  

As mentioned above…. There is a metric ton of people living in that house.    No one is supporting my neighbor.   He even said to me once “this doesn’t even feel like my house anymore”.    Financially he is being drained dry.    This angers me so much.     Why can’t they see what they are doing to him?    They are taking advantage of his heart and his goodwill.     To me, this is the same as being a bully.   I hate bullies.    I wasn’t going to date a bully!       

Don’t get me wrong though.    He has admitted to me that he did this to himself, he accepts the responsibility (which is admirable as hell).      Just because he is okay with it, doesn’t mean I have to be.  I wish I could help him more.